Woman cancels wedding after finding out her fiancé has been draining their joint bank account to fund his private bank account, which has $27k in funds: ‘His reason? Just in case’

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
May 18, 2025 8:00 PM EDT

If you found out your partner has been stealing money from you, would you go through with tying the knot in holy matrimony, or would you get the heck out of there, and fast? If your answer was the former, you might want to think again after reading this next story.

Joint bank accounts are typically the norm after you become married to someone, but it's not particularly unusual to share finances before tying the knot. After all, marriage is a pretty outdated concept, especially for independent woman who don't want to take their man's last name. Nothing wrong with that! However, it's important that you know—truly know—who you're with before sharing finances with them. You might find that they've been siphoning your hard-earned money into a bank account you don't know about… This is what's happening to the woman who posted the story you're about to read. Scroll below.

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  • Any type of lie, let alone a gargantuan lie like the now-ex fiancé told in this next story, is a red flag. If you don't have trust and honesty in a relationship before marrying, you sure as heck won't find it after. Some people just enjoy withholding information and taking what doesn't belong to them. When will kind-hearted people be free of this type of person? Sigh…

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  • "AITAH for canceling my wedding after finding out my fiancé had a secret second bank account?"

    I called off my wedding last month after discovering that my fiancé who I'd been with for 4 years, had a completely hidden second bank account and I'm still
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  • getting a lot of backlash from friends and family who think I overreacted. We had been. planning our wedding for a year.
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  • Deposits were made, guests invited, dress bought. We had already merged most of our finances in preparation for marriage. We sat down together
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  • months ago and agreed on full financial transparency going forward. We even talked about long-term financial goals like buying a house, saving for kids
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  • and retirement. I thought we were on the same page. A few weeks before the wedding, I was doing some paperwork for the joint account when I noticed
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  • something odd: a deposit was missing. Not a small one either but $2,500 that he said he had transferred to the joint account was never there. When I asked
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  • him about it, he brushed it off and said it was probably a mistake that would show up eventually. That didn't sit right with me. So I did something I
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  • never thought I'd do I checked his emails on our shared tablet. I know that's not great, and I don't feel good about it, but my gut told me something was wrong.
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  • That's when I found notifications for an entirely separate checking account in a different bank under his name only. The balance? Over $27,000.
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  • BANK ACCOUNT BALANCE 1.5650.00 2. $1200.00 3.5250.00 4.199.00 5.5 1011.00 6.599.00
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  • I confronted him immediately. At first, he lied. Said it was old that he forgot about it. Then he admitted he'd been quietly funneling money from our joint
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  • earnings into that account for the last year and a half. His reason? Just in case. In case what? He couldn't really explain. He said it was a backup plan, that he grew
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  • up poor and it made him feel safer. But he never once mentioned this during any of our financial planning conversations.
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  • He just kept it secret. I wasn't angry about the money itself. I was angry about the deception. I asked him: If you can lie about something this big before
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  • marriage, how can I trust you after we're legally bound to each other for life? He told me I was being dramatic. That it's normal for people to keep some money
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  • separate. But this wasn't a personal savings account we discussed it was hidden. When I told him I needed time to think, he got defensive. Then, when I
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  • told him I was postponing the wedding, he lost it said I was humiliating him, that I was overreacting, that I was throwing away a future over a technicality.
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  • His mother called me the next day, furious. She said I was selfish for ruining all the wedding plans and judging him for being smart with money. Some of my
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  • friends think I should've just talked it through and gone to couples counseling. One even said I'm lucky he's a saver and that most women would kill to
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  • have a man who's financially responsible.But to me, it wasn't about the money. It was about trust. Marriage is supposed to be a partnership, not a secret competition. AITA for canceling my wedding over a hidden bank account?
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  • Every-Rip704 A private bank account might be smart. A private bank account that siphons money from a shared account is theft. NTA, and you were absolutely right to run.
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  • Eastern_Condition863 NTA. He was stealing from you then lied about it.
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